A safe life will leave your soul empty and wanting…

June 24, 2019by Marie Houlden2

For years, I was living a life that didn’t feel right. I knew deep down that it wasn’t the life I should be living, my soul reminded me of that every day, with a simmering sense of anxiety. On the surface, it was a nice enough life. It was a life that others might have even been slightly envious of and wanted for themselves. It was a nice life….

Unfortunately, this was the thinking that kept me stuck. Every day I kept trying to convince myself that this life should be enough for me and I should be happy! I kept trying to deny how I really felt by telling myself that my feelings were wrong and that I should focus on gratitude instead. Inside I was crying out for a life of meaning, passion, excitement, fun and adventure, but instead I had settled for a life that was safe and boring!

My soul was slowing dying.

I knew that this life would never bring me true happiness. I finally had to admit to myself and to others that the life I was living wasn’t the life I was placed on this earth to live. I was merely existing but not truly living. I was letting life happen to me. I was choosing to live a safe life instead of living a life that could offer me no guarantees about the future. I was choosing to live a safe life simply because it was the easy thing to do and I was desperate to keep the peace and provide a stable life for my kids.

However, to fully live our purpose, we have to be courageous because living in alignment with who we are isn’t always easy.

You will be asked to make choices that could hurt others, but in denying who we really are, we’re not being truthful.

You will be asked to step outside your comfort zone and to take risks, but this is where miracles happen.

You will be asked to place yourself in the firing line of other people’s opinions and judgements, but their opinions simply don’t matter! Those that love and understand you, will be right behind you, cheering you on every step of the way.

I want you to know that people who live “on purpose” by doing what they love and are making choices in alignment with their highest truth are not a special breed of person. They haven’t been earmarked as being different or more capable than the rest of us. Rather, they have simply chosen to believe in themselves as well as their calling in life and to be courageous while moving towards it.

I don’t have all the answers, but I trust my intuition 100% and in doing that I know I will be okay and that every decision I make is for my highest good!

Everyday, I know that I have a choice about the person I want to be and how I want to show up in the world, and I choose to be brave.

Even when I feel misunderstood, I choose to be brave.

Even when I feel alone, I choose to be brave.

Even when I feel fear, I choose to be brave.

The calling in me to live authentically is too strong to deny. When I decided to be brave instead of feeling safe, my entire life opened up and became the life that I always dreamed of having but didn’t think was possible.

Please know that I’m absolutely no different than you are. When I realized that my safe life wasn’t a life that brought me happiness, I decided to be courageous and to step outside my comfort zone in order to live a life that brought me absolute joy and fulfilment! You can do this too!

Everyday I now reflect on every part of my life and I ask myself where am I not in alignment, where are my energy leaks and where am I playing safe… then I make changes immediately! Because of this habit I have more time and space in my life than ever before and I’m finally earning the money I deserve, without killing myself in the process.

Just imagine how different your life would be if you decided to be courageous. Ask yourself, what one step could you take today to start living the life of your dreams? Every step you take is one step away from the life you’re living and towards what you really want. If you want to know how to work with me CLICK HERE.

Just know that you’re not alone and my support is available if you would like it.

Until next time!


Self-Care Coach & Energy Healer

Helping sensitive souls to embody self-care, self-acceptance and self belief




  • Jayne

    March 30, 2017 at 11:35 am

    Oh my goodness Marie, that resonates with me more than you could know!! You have described exactly how I feel at the moment. I’m not happy and just living day to day to not cause any problems or make any waves. What I really want to do is totally different!


    • Marie Houlden

      March 30, 2017 at 11:42 am

      So glad this helped you today Jayne. A big block for people is not knowing what they want – it sounds like you do! Are there baby steps you could take to start bringing your dreams life closer?? Owning that you want and desire change is massive, so well done for being honest! Always here to support you if you need it. x


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