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Self Care Coach
SELF-CARE COACH & HEALER
Over the years I’ve come to realise that our self-care is essential if we’re to create sustainable business success and live our best life; experience joy, love and happiness in all we do. The trouble is, we’re very good at putting everyone else first; ignoring our needs and what’s right for us. I would love to help you create more balance in your life, reclaim your confidence and embody self-care, self-acceptance and self-belief. Click here if you would like to know more about me.
Self Care Coach UK
Self-care is more than just the latest buzz word, it’s a way of life!
If we don’t take care of ourselves, then life can lose so much of it’s joy. Everything that we’ve worked so hard for can feel meaningless if we’re struggling with exhaustion, overwhelm, stress and that dreaded feeling of not knowing who we are anymore. Self-care ensures that you’re doing what it takes to live a full and happy life, with energy, enthusiasm, excitement and health!
My hope is that you’ll see self-care as the ultimate expression of self-love. By doing this for yourself, you'll also lead the way and inspire others to prioritise self-care…. if we all did this, the world would be a much better place!
If we don’t take care of ourselves, then life can lose so much of it’s joy. Everything that we’ve worked so hard for can feel meaningless if we’re struggling with exhaustion, overwhelm, stress and that dreaded feeling of not knowing who we are anymore. Self-care ensures that you’re doing what it takes to live a full and happy life, with energy, enthusiasm, excitement and health!
My hope is that you’ll see self-care as the ultimate expression of self-love. By doing this for yourself, you'll also lead the way and inspire others to prioritise self-care…. if we all did this, the world would be a much better place!
"Self-care is a form of self-love, so make sure you give yourself the attention you deserve"
What is self-care?
People often think of self-care as bubble baths, massages and walks in nature and while it can of course incorporate these things, there is so much more to it.
Self-care is all about ensuring that you have alignment in all areas of life; that you’re balanced in body, mind and soul. I want you to live a life that makes you happy and excited to get up each day and I want you to have the health and vitality to enjoy that life. Right now, are you fulfilled? Are you happy?
Who needs a self-care coach?
Self-care is essential for everyone, but especially if you have an incredibly busy life. Too many people are struggling with stress and burn out. The costs to individuals and to companies is huge and yet it could often be prevented with more awareness and self-care. If any of the following resonate for you, then you and I could be the perfect fit:
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Busy professionals and business owners, juggling work and personal life.
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Caregivers and parents dealing with multiple responsibilities.
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Those experiencing high levels of stress, anxiety, or emotional challenges.
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Individuals seeking personal growth and a more balanced lifestyle.
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Anyone looking to improve their physical health, nutrition, or fitness.
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People navigating major life transitions or coping with significant changes.
Essentially, anyone who wishes to lead a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life, could benefit from self-care practices and the guidance of a self-care coach.
What’s it like to work with a Self-Care Coach?
Every journey is individual and I’m committed to walking this path with you. One of the things that I hear time and again from clients is how safe they feel.
They are seen, heard and never judged, only from this place can true healing and transformation take place. Together we explore the past and present, to create a better future. I’ll hold you accountable for the goals that you set and I’ll be the first one to celebrate with you.
An important part of our work together, is being truly honest about how you feel, so I will regularly invite you to reflect. I want you to experience positive change across all areas of your life. So what can you expect:
- I’ll assess your individual situations and needs. I want to know what you currently do for self-care and what gets in the way of this happening. Sometimes this is time, energy and money, but often deeper emotional components are at play. This is where I get to play detective!
- Once you’ve reflected on all areas of your life, we’ll agree what your prioritises and create a plan. I have a strong belief in the mind, body connection and so I will encourage you to focus on physical, emotional, and mental self-care strategies. For those of you who consider yourself spiritual, we can also look at how to nourish this element and connection.
- You’ll get regular guidance and support from me, ensuring you complete your goals. It’s normal for things to feel hard at times and to even sabotage your own success and these are things we can explore together.
- Through the work we do, you’ll find your connection if yourself and you level of self-awareness deepens. Whatever you experience in life, you’ll be able to be less reactive and take a step back. You’ll have more self-awareness of old habits, your reactions (triggers) and actually what you really need.
- A big part of my work with you, will be relaxing and calming your nervous system, so that you’re no longer in fight or flight. This takes you away from the present moment and this is where we experience true joy, not in the past, not in the future, but in this moment right now.
- I will always encourage curiosity. I want you to be curious and interested in everything you experience, whether internally or externally. This has been one of the biggest game changers for me and my clients. Suddenly you can see things what you’re subconsciously trying to achieve through your words and actions.
Why is self-care important?
Self-care is not a luxury and it’s not a frivolous act, it’s an essential part of life, in the same way you would take a shower, or brush your teeth.
The people around you deserve the best of you and not the scraps left behind; but when we’re overwhelmed, exhausted and we’re spinning too many plates, we have little to give. Without adequate self-care we risk burnout, depression, stress, anxiety and being absent from our own life; merely surviving.
Why is self-care so hard for me?
Believe me, you’re not alone with this. I used to struggle with self-care too, but I now know that it’s possible to have a very busy life and still create time for self-care. Some of the reasons you might struggle are:
- Juggling too many responsibilities. Often we just can’t say no and there’s a saying ‘if you want something done, ask a busy person’. This can lead to us taking on so much more than we can really handle and then wondering why all those plates we’re spinning have come crashing down.
- It’s easy to feel guilty when we stop, rest or do something for ourselves, we can experience immense guilt. Internally we might ask ourselves questions like, is this okay, do I deserve to rest, is there something else I should be doing, is it okay to speak my truth, is it okay to set boundaries, am I allowed to say no…. the negative internal dialogue can be endless.
- You don’t have a full understanding of what self-care is. When you’re feeling overworked and overwhelmed, it would be easy to think you just need a rest or a massage, but maybe what you really need is some honest and difficult conversations with people. You might need to say no, set boundaries, delegate…. all of these things can bring up fear and resistance.
- You worry about the financial cost of things. There are so many ways to embrace self-care without there being huge costs, or any costs. We see so many images on social media that focus on luxury, that we’ve forgotten how much pleasure can be found in the simple. A walk in the park with your favourite person (or dog) followed by hot chocolate can be so fulfilling and rejuvenating.
Mastering your mindset is key when it comes to self-care, because old habits die hard. We may have a lifetime of old programming that we need to overcome, but with consistent effort and my accountability, I know you can do it.
Can I do self-care alone?
Of course, but it’s always beneficial to have the support, encouragement and accountability of an expert. This is something that I feel extremely passionate about and I love working with people 1-1, or in groups as they commit to their self-care journey.
Alone we can struggle to get started, we can get distracted and it’s harder to stay committed to ourselves. There is so much power in coming together in a group to work on self-care.
What does your self-care look like?
If you had asked me this a few years ago, I would have struggled to answer this question. I knew it was important and that I needed more of it, but I struggled to implement it for myself.
It was only when I hit a place in my life where I had no work life balance and life, I was on the verge of another burn out and life had become about surviving, that I knew something had to change.
Now, I’m very committed to my self-care and if that means other people have to wait, get told no, or I actually spend my time and energy on myself… I’m okay with that. We can never recover lost time and it can be very hard to reverse dis-ease and I believe prevention is better than cure.
Self-care can mean different things to different people, but for me, it’s daily dog walks, regular gym sessions, weekly breathwork, daily mediation and EFT/Tapping, relaxing on my Shakti Mat, spending time with friends and family, kitchen dancing to cheesy tunes, being honest when I don’t want to do something or when
I’m triggered, doing things that make me happy, asking for help and spending money on quality supplements and food that give me health and vitality.
“My monthly sessions with Marie keep me grounded and more intentional about prioritising my self-care. Marie’s curiosity and care quickly starts unpicking what may be causing stress. She brings you many “aha” moments by articulating the thoughts/beliefs she hears, with great clarity. I truly appreciate how she brings all her skills and wisdom to the session, whether it is talk therapy, healing or breathing. There are times when I have no burning issue/challenge yet I have full faith that it is worth me being in the session, as it is always hugely worthwhile.
In our company culture, everyone’s well being is so important to us as CEOs. During various life events of our team, we have suggested they work with Marie – we know they could not be in better hands and every time, they also truly appreciate what she brings to them.
Finally, Marie’s generosity – after each session, she takes time and attention to summarise the session, share ideas, resources and will hold you accountable if you so wish. In addition, she will share a recording of any healing as well as access to an incredible library of recordings. As such, you are supported post the session too and she truly cares. Full of respect for and appreciation of Marie and her work. Cannot recommend her highly enough”.
Deborah Croft
CEO Thriving Talent
“I have been working with Marie in several different capacities and she has been an integral part of my healing. I will never forget my first breathwork session, I had never experienced anything like it! Marie is so intuitive and can get to the root of problems that help to accelerate your healing. I have had some of my deepest healing since working with her. She has a way to put you at ease and walk you through whatever you are dealing with. I can also say that I have had some of the biggest personal and professional shifts since working with her. I wanted to own my business for a long time and made several attempts but now I am living my dream of having my own practice! I cannot thank Marie enough for all her help, healing and support”.nd blowing. Thank you Marie for all you have done for me, EFT, healing, guidance and all the clarity you have helped me find.”
Michelle Meyer
Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner
“I connected with Marie when I was going through an extremely rough time. My business had flat-lined, I was untangling myself from a toxic relationship, and I wasn’t feeling like myself. I knew I was capable of so much more, but I felt absolutely stuck. Private coaching with Marie helped me create stronger energetic boundaries, release what was no longer serving me, and step into my full potential. I’ve also been able to take some courageous risks in my business: I started a pod cast and decided to completely change the direction of my work. Prior to working with Marie, I was so caught up in fears of “what everyone would think” — not any more! Now I’m in total alignment with my work, life feels easy again, and I’m so excited about the future. The coming months are shaping up to be fulfilling, fun, and abundant. Marie is my go-to guide for busting past stubborn blocks. I’ve also done her wonderful group programs, but investing in her presence as a private coach has been pivotal for my growth. If you’re thinking about working with her, know this: you have absolutely no idea how good life is about to get. I’m so excited for you”.
Holly Higgins
Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy Practitioner (RTT)
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Marie is qualified and certified as a Kinesiologist, EFT Practitioner, Strategic Intervention Coach, Breathwork Facilitator, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master & Karuna Reiki Practitioner and Practitioner of Transformational Bodywork. She has also completed a year of Trauma Training with Gabor Mate, which allows her to work on trauma related issues with people! If you want to know more about Marie, click here.
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