One of the reasons we can decide not to speak up, is because we have this ingrained belief that people just don’t listen to us. Often this belief is formed in childhood when our voice wasn’t heard and then it’s compounded over the years. The belief becomes stronger and stronger until it’s now a truth!
This belief (or truth) has a huge impact on the decisions you make and how you show up in every relationship in your life; with partners, friends, family, people you interact with as part of general life, and those that you connect to through work. Can you identify yourself in the following:
- You choose not to speak your truth with someone because they didn’t listen in the past and you feel like you’re wasting your time, energy and effort.
- You never challenge people and what they’re saying, whether a partner, friend or even someone in authority, because you believe they won’t listen anyway. Consider a doctor or other health professional, a legal expert, your children’s teacher, or even something as simple as making a complaint to someone about your food or experience.
- Most parents complain that their kids never listen, but for you it bothers you so much more. You feel hurt, rejected, taken for granted and at times furious! There’s a strong possibility, that the child within you is finally expressing her feelings and this is about more than your kids messy bedroom or their inability to be on time.
- Because you’ve chosen not to speak up for such a long time, it’s now become a big deal and so you feel anxious and nervous just thinking about it. The molehill has become that dread mountain and you’re not sure you’ve got what it takes to climb it.
- You’re procrastinating and holding back when it comes to sharing how you can help people with your gifts, talents and knowledge. Projects are left unfinished, ideas are not explored, emails are never sent, content is not created. The impact is that other people are surging ahead offering exactly what you do and instead you’re watching from the shadows frustrated and angry at yourself.
- You feel like you’re doing all the right things in your business, but no one seems to be noticing you. It’s infuriating when others say the same things as you and offer the same services/products and suddenly everyone listens and takes note. It makes you feel that the business world/on-line space is full of people with big voices and clever words, and that you’ll never be able to compete.
All of these things can make you feel invisible, completely powerless, insignificant and small. This is when we doubt ourselves and our dreams and we sabotage instead; we’re caught up in our own story and what’s possible for us. One small belief can have a huge impact.
I want you to know that it’s possible to change this belief, you just need to understand where it started, you need to commit to healing that inner hurt and then you need to take action. To get this process started, I’ve create a new EFT script for you to try – I’m scared to speak up – try this to see if anything resonates for you and to begin the process of finding your voice and speaking your truth. I would love to know how this belief impacts you right now.
If this post and this topic has resonated for you, and you know that this is the year for speaking up and showing up, then you have a few ways to work with me. CLICK HERE.
If you have any questions then just let me know.
Until next time!
Marie
Intuitive Energy Healer
Helping sensitive souls to embody self-care, self-acceptance and self-belief.