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My dream house and forever home is definitely one

My dream house and forever home is definitely one with land. I love the idea of having loads of space around me for animals, flowers, trees and veggies.
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To get me in the zone of 'living off the land'... I've been growing loads of things in my little greenhouse. Tomatoes, cucumbers, peppers, potatoes, sweet potatoes, broccoli, carrots, cauliflower and strawberries!
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Have to say, pottering with the plants does make me rather happy... plus it's very grounding after a day working with energy.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Do you have moments where you feel as if people wa

Do you have moments where you feel as if people walk all over you and the worst thing is, you let them? If this sounds like you, then you're not alone, I've done this countless times in my life and as a recovering people pleaser, it's something I always have to watch.
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There are many reasons that we fall into the habit of people pleasing; including things like the fear of being rejected, abandoned and alone. Or the fear of conflict, arguments and disagreements. We think that keeping other people happy will protect the relationship, and in doing so it will keep us bonded to the other person and hence safe, but the reality is often very different.
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People pleasing is an endless cycle where we feel like we're walking on egg shells because we're always trying to be what someone else wants us to be; it's soul destroying, stressful and exhausting. You're trying to read their minds, predict and manage their responses; all the while feeling completely unsafe and ungrounded. Is it any wonder that we become ill, depressed and withdraw from people.
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When I discovered that people pleasing could actually be a trauma response, it took my breath away. Suddenly the last 4 decades made sense... I could finally understand my behaviour and my resistance to expressing my truth and doing what was right for me. It wasn't just a case of finding my confidence and taking steps to feel more comfortable, this was a trauma response because all my relationships felt conditional.
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This Friday I'm running a workshop within My Healing Membership and my aim is to help you identify where you're people pleasing and why. Let me help you create emotional freedom in expressing your truth and understanding any old wounds/trauma. Link in the bio.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Such a beautiful time of the year! 💗 Have you e

Such a beautiful time of the year!
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Have you ever noticed that nature has no fear in expressing itself?
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Have you ever considered that there might be a pri

Have you ever considered that there might be a price to pay for not speaking up and expressing your truth?
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We often think about how we might feel emotionally if we hold back, but there can also be a lot going on with the body. When you experience those aches, pains and niggles it can be the body trying to get our attention and when we don't listen, this is when it can turn into illness and dis-ease! These things don't tend to happen overnight, they are a build up of months, years, even decades of not expressing our truth and not being able to live an authentic life.
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If you're new to the concept of the mind / body connection, you might find this rather confrontational and that's okay, this way of thinking might not be for you. BUT, if you've already begun to wonder or suspect that more is at play, then this could be the sign you need that you need to stop and pay attention to what your body is trying to communicate to you.
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Do any of these things feel familiar:
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You often feel a pressure or energy in the throat.
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You find yourself with annoying little coughs that you know are not related to any medical issues
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Your jaw can often feel tense and tight
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You can experience ear issues
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Your neck is often tense and tight
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You have IBS or other digestive health issues
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You struggle with an autoimmune illness
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Anxiety is a common friend for you
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You experience regular headaches or migraines
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If you resonate with any of the above symptoms, then take a few moments to ground and breath into the body and what you're feeling. Give the sensations space to be, without fear or judgement and then ask your body what you need to know. You may be surprised at the answer and I would love to know what emerged.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

It's FRIDAY, which can only mean one thing... 💗

It's FRIDAY, which can only mean one thing...
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Marshmallows and the fire pit are happening tonight.
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Have a great weekend everyone.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Expressing your truth is hard enough to do, but e

Expressing your truth is hard enough to do, but even more so when you've grown up believing that you had no voice.
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So who made you feel like your voice, opinion or thoughts didn't matter?
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Southbourne Beach... 💗 Feeling very lucky to li

Southbourne Beach...
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Feeling very lucky to live in such a beautiful part of the world. 15 minutes from a gorgeous beach, that would rival the best in the world AND 15 minutes from beautiful forests that rejuvenate my soul.
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I often find myself complaining about the amount of traffic and people in Bournemouth, but is it any wonder if it has so much to offer!
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As a sensitive soul, I crave space, peace and I enjoy the quiet life, but right now Bournemouth is the perfect place to raise my family. So I often give myself a little talking to and a reality check on what really matters in life!
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Choosing gratitude and looking forward to my forever home in the country.... when the time is right!
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

When you think of women speaking up, what comes to

When you think of women speaking up, what comes to mind?
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They're brave, confident, know who they are, they're go getters, assertive, determined, honest, forthright, powerful and strong. They have incredible boundaries, they make loving choices for themselves and are taking responsibility for their own life.
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Or, do you see 'those' kinds of women as bossy, opinionated, unkind, aggressive, trouble makers, too much, demanding, difficult, unfeminine, unattractive, and ball-breakers? Perhaps you think they're too rigid, selfish, self centred and have no compassion or empathy for others.
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All of us will have perceptions about women who chose to speak up and it will be influenced by a number of different factors. How we feel on the day, who's speaking up and why, how we feel about speaking up and putting ourselves first, old conditioning and fear.
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With perceptions that fall into the second category, is it any wonder that so many women choose not to speak up. We don't want to be labelled, criticised or made to feel bad about ourselves, so instead we choose silence, conformity and people pleasing. It's easier and safer, because we just want to fit in and belong.
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I have to say... I admire those women who speak up and are honest, because it's something I'm still learning to do more of (recovering people pleaser and all!). As long as it's done in a respectful and kind way, and it's appropriate, then we should all be free to express our truth.
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We shouldn't have to fear the wrath of other people; but old conditioning, fear and trauma can make us feel physically unsafe when it comes to voicing our truth and doing what's right for us.
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So what are your thoughts around women who speak up?
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

I found this little beauty on my dog walk with Evi

I found this little beauty on my dog walk with Evie... a Peacock Butterfly.
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I love the symbolism, because there is such powerful meaning in butterflies and peacocks.
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Butterflies represent transformation, change and movement forward. For some it can be a sign that your dreams are on their way (yippy). You have spent time in you cocoon transforming, resting and healing and now it's time to show the world how you can fly and soar.
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Peacocks represent, regrowth, rejuvenation, respect, honour and integrity. They are perfect at helping you to remember who you really are and to reconnect with your inner beauty, strength and courage.... sounds great!
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I love butterflies and have just filled the garden with seeds that encourage wildlife too. Can't wait to see what comes to visit.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

If I speak up, I'll end up alone... 💗 This is o

If I speak up, I'll end up alone...
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This is one of the many fears we can have when it comes to speaking up. It pulls on all those worries about being abandoned, left out, left behind and not fitting in. We fear our truth will push people away, because they won't like what we have to say and they won't like who we really are.
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It doesn't matter that you're communicating with kindness and respect, it doesn't matter that you've been honest with yourself and you've lovingly asserting boundaries; the fact is, you said something they didn't want to hear and now they're triggered. Their response has left you feeling guilty, regretful and remorseful. Honesty is not safe, your truth is not ok!
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I've dealt with the reality of this so many times and it does leave an impact. I decide to be honest and the other person pulls away; doing exactly what I feared. So when it comes to being honest again, you can see how we might choose the relationship and the attachment to the person, over our own sense of integrity, honesty and truth.
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Ask yourself:
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Do you find yourself biting your tongue instead of speaking up, because you worry people will leave you or pull away from you?
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Do you do this with all people in your life, or just some?
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Has your truth caused people to pull away from you in the past? What was the impact of that?
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Have your words hurt another, even if you delivered them with respect, compassion and kindness? What have you made that mean?
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Reflecting on this can be incredibly insightful, because suddenly you can see all the ways you've been holding yourself back. Maybe the choices are conscious, or maybe they're driven by a deeper part of you that is trying it's best to keep you safe. Just know; your actions today are based on old beliefs, experiences and trauma, which you can heal if you choose to.
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#speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #expressyourself #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Started the day with a very wet and windy walk at

Started the day with a very wet and windy walk at Sandbanks Beach.... Evie had a great time and was suitably worn out as we enjoyed hot chocolate after at Jazzy's.
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When Evie was little I would often try little trips out to cafe's and she struggled to settle, so it was never very relaxing, but today she was brilliant. A combination of wearing her out first, practice of settling when on a lead around new places, people and dogs and just trusting that she would get there in her own time.
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It's easy to put pressure on our dogs, because we have an idea of when things should happen and we compare to other dogs too - both those around us and dogs we've owned/own. Best thing I ever did was accepting that Evie is amazing at some things, but some things (recall with other dogs around) is going to take us some more work and time. Regardless, I love this gorgeous girl and I can't believe I've had her nearly 3 years.
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#puppylove #womansbestfriend #springer #malinois #unconditionallove

Even the most confident of people can struggle wit

Even the most confident of people can struggle with speaking up and sharing their truth.
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From the outside we can perceive them as so brave, so direct and never holding back. But they know, there are things they're choosing not to say, because it feels too hard or unsafe.
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Sometimes this can be about what they truly feel or believe in. Everyone else has their opinion and it doesn't feel safe to say they disagree or see things differently - they want to avoid conflict and arguments, rejection and abandonment.
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Sometimes this is about setting in place the boundaries you need to live an aligned life and run a business that works for you. This is when they give too much away for free, allowing clients to overstep boundaries and putting themselves and their needs last - they want to be liked, needed and chosen.
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For some, it can be feeling scared to share how they can truly help people or raising their prices to honour their true value. Instead they stay in their 'safe zone', doing what they've always done - they doubt themselves, their value and their skills; they don't want to feel like a fraud, or risk letting people down.
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When fear sets in, it's easier to procrastinate and stay silent, but the silence eats away at us. We know we're not living our best life and we're not stepping into our power.
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So what stops you from speaking up? I would love to know....
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#speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #expressyourself #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

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