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Who is draining your energy?

Who is draining your energy?

Energy Vampires, Energy Leaches, Energy Suckers, Energy Robbers…. whatever you want to call them, it’s time to identify yours!

If you’re a sensitive person and often find yourself suddenly overcome with extreme tiredness, overwhelm, anxiety, frustration or even anger – then there’s a good chance your energy is being drained by someone. We all have people in our lives who make us feel exhausted! Just being in their presence or talking with them, drains us of the will to live! We can become overcome with emotions and physical sensations that were not there previously.


Our body begins to contract, we hunch our shoulders, cross our arms, turn our body away from them and sometimes physically move away from them. On a subconscious level, what we are doing is trying to protect our energy from being stolen and we are trying to cover up our Energy Centres or Chakras – in particular the Solar Plexus and the Heart Chakra.

First off, don’t panic, because there are things that you can do to identify the people who drain you and to strengthen your energy in the future, so that this doesn’t happen again.

Most people will never try and take your energy intentionally, (although there are exceptions to the rule!) and they may not do it all the time, but the reality is they do have a habit of taking our energy and it needs to stop. For your own sanity and physical health!


  1. Make a list of all the people you are connected to and spend time with – for example, friends, family, partners, colleagues, parents at school, those in groups you attend etc etc
  2. Now consider how you feel when you think of them or when you spend time with them
  3. Identify those key individuals that you know are taking your energy and where it doesn’t feel good to be connected to them
  4. Create an action plan for future interactions… keep on reading for help with this!

How to deal with energy takers:

This is a tricky one, because often clients will tell me that the very people draining them area close family members, partners or clients – especially if you are a healer!  Use some of the following tips to help ease the interactions:

  1. Reduce your contact with them or release them from your life all together! It sounds harsh, but people who drain you are not in energetic alignment with you…as well as impacting your physical health, they will be impacting your emotional and spiritual well-being.
  2. Set clear boundaries with them. Are there things that you really don’t like discussing with them, perhaps they are overly negative, they moan, judge or criticize constantly. Either keep switching the conversation until they get the message, or let them know that you are happy to see them, but you would prefer to talk about more positive and uplifting things.
  3. Use EFT/Tapping after your interactions to release any emotions that may have been dumped on you and to replenish your energy levels. This video is a great place to start and something I often do after my clients.
  4. Go for a walk, go to the gym, or perhaps try yoga – anything that raises your energy levels.
  5. Meditate – I find this an amazing way to get grounded and centred again. I focus on clearing my Chakras of anything that doesn’t belong to me and then flooding my body with love, light and healing. You can choose to do this in silence or with some gentle relaxing music….
  6. If you are into crystals, then these can be very helpful at protecting your energy from negative people. Generally any crystal that is black will help – Black Tourmaline, Black Obsidian, Selenite and Boji Stones are a good starting point. Just pop them in your pocket, have them in your necklace or bracelet or simply hold them while in their presence.

As well as doing all of the above, it’s essential that your own emotional and physical energy is strong. When you are coming from a place of strength and alignment, it is harder for people to take your energy. So ask yourself if you have done enough work on your own energy and your own emotions.

If you need a little more support around this and are ready to work thorough the emotional and energetic drains on your life, then look at the ways you can work with me further.

  • My Healing Membership (Originally called ALIGN) – A community for Sensitive Souls / Empaths / Introverts – This is the perfect healing hub to help you with your energy and emotions as you navigate all elements of life. I will help you to understand your sensitivity and energy and be able to make more aligned and conscious choices, which ultimately mean you experience more health, wealth and happiness in your life and business. There are weekly breathwork classes, 2 EFT Sessions & Energy Healing sessions every month, daily access to me, a library of over 230 EFT scripts, stacks of meditations and content to help and support you. Now more than ever we need connection with genuine, like minded people and this membership is perfect for that.
  • PRIVATE SESSIONS – Whether you need support with a particular situation, achieving a big goal, or because you need someone to hold space for you as you support others, my private sessions will be perfect for you. It will give you the accountability and support you need to create the life and emotional mindset you truly desire. You’ll have my full support between sessions to ensure you’re moving forward.

If you have any questions then just let me know.

Until next time!


Intuitive Mindset Coach & Energy Healer for the Sensitive SoulHelping you banish negativity, self-doubt & self-sabotage forever – it’s time to believe in yourself, take action and create the life you deserve.

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