A woman leaning against a tree appears upset, seeking external approval, with three concerned friends standing in the background in a park, likely discussing a serious matter.

Do you seek external approval?

Do you seek external approval?

“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.” (Nic Sheff)

So many people look for approval outside of themselves.

They are desperate for external validation for who they are, the choices they make and the things they say and do….life becomes exhausting when you are chasing this kind of approval.

You are living life on someone elses terms and giving away your power, and all because you want to fit in and be approved of.

If this sounds like you, then you also know just how easy it can be to lose yourself…. you look in the mirror and you simply don’t recognise the woman staring back at you! You have no idea what you like, what you believe in, what your values are, or what you even want to do with your life. You have spent years trying to be like everyone else, just to avoid conflict, criticism and rejection.

Know that you deserve to live life on your terms and the only approval you need is your own!

Let me give you some questions to consider so that you can begin to take back control of your life:

  • Why do you need other people to approve of who you are? When you can identify this, we can understand what is really going on and what deeper psychological need you are trying to meet. Is this about fitting in and belonging? Perhaps you fear that without approval you won’t be loved for who you really are – that you’re not enough!
  • When did this habit begin and why? Often we make decisions in early childhood and these get constantly reinforced over the years. We think that in some way we are keeping ourselves safe by avoid conflict, rejection etc…. but while we may feel ‘safe’ we can often feel empty, because we are living a lie! Resentment builds and we never really trust anyone – because how can we, when they don’t even know us!
  • Are you really prepared to change the course of your life and not be everything you are capable of, because of someone else? Imagine you are sitting in your armchair at 90 – will you regret the things you never did, the opportunities and risks you never took, the fact that you gave all your power away? What would you say to your younger self?

If you are ready to claim back your power, then look below, to find out how you can work with me further. Together we can get rid of all the limiting stories and beliefs that are holding you back from having and living the life you really want. Can you even imagine being able to make choices from an authentic and loving place and not from fear….. it would be so powerful!


You could be who you really are without apology…. without the fear of rejection, without needing anything from anyone else – because you already know you are enough and that you’re perfect as you are!

  • My Healing Membership (Originally called ALIGN) – A community for Sensitive Souls / Empaths / Introverts – This is the perfect healing hub to help you with your energy and emotions as you navigate all elements of life. I will help you to understand your sensitivity and energy and be able to make more aligned and conscious choices, which ultimately mean you experience more health, wealth and happiness in your life and business. There are weekly breathwork classes, 2 EFT Sessions & Energy Healing sessions every month, daily access to me, a library of over 230 EFT scripts, stacks of meditations and content to help and support you. Now more than ever we need connection with genuine, like minded people and this membership is perfect for that.
  • PRIVATE SESSIONS – Whether you need support with a particular situation, achieving a big goal, or because you need someone to hold space for you as you support others, my private sessions will be perfect for you. It will give you the accountability and support you need to create the life and emotional mindset you truly desire. You’ll have my full support between sessions to ensure you’re moving forward.

If you have any questions then just let me know.

Until next time!


Intuitive Mindset Coach & Energy Healer for the Sensitive SoulHelping you banish negativity, self-doubt & self-sabotage forever – it’s time to believe in yourself, take action and create the life you deserve.

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