“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”(Malachy McCourt)
We’ve all experienced moments of resentment in our life; times where we’ve held onto anger and bitterness because we felt that in some way injustice was at play. We may have felt wronged, mistreated and unappreciated and because of this we struggled to move on; especially if it breached a core value of ours, or the perpetrators were someone significant in our life.
Resentment comes from feeling hurt, having unmet needs and having our boundaries crossed and for many, never getting the closure needed to move on. So resentment festers like a poison within us. It changes our mental state, impacts our emotions, causes dis-ease in the body and it lowers our energetic frequency. (This is key for receiving and it’s why people can be doing everything right and yet still not have what they desire)
The energy and heaviness of resentment will impact your health, wealth and happiness. You’ll be left with feelings of anger, frustration, tension and a heaviness that you just can’t seem to shift. You know this is not who you are, but you can’t understand why you can’t move on from this and just let it go!
If this has caught your attention and you’re wondering if resentment is costing you health, wealth and happiness, take a look at the following:
- You agree to do something that you really don’t want to do and then feel resentful because you didn’t say no. You’re mad at the other person for putting you in this position (even though you said yes) and then all the feelings of being unseen, unconsidered, under appreciated and under valued kick in. That habit of people pleasing is hard to break and you fear the consequences of speaking up.
- A friend, family member, or partner, is constantly leaning on you for emotional support, but is rarely there for you. It makes you feel drained, irritated and annoyed.
- You take on more than your share of responsibility at work, or at home, because you are the organised, reliable and efficient one. However you don’t feel appreciated for doing this. You rarely speak up, because you’ve learnt it never makes a difference. You stay silent but you feel angry, frustrated and taken advantage of.
- You’ve put other people and their needs ahead of you for years, and over time the resentment has grown. You’ve abandoned yourself for people who don’t appreciate you, don’t thank you, have no regard for your feelings and would even betray you if it suited them. You feel like you’ve wasted years on people that didn’t deserve your love, care and compassion.
I know all this might be hard to hear, especially when injustice really is at play, but I have seen this too often within my clients and I’ve been there too. There have been many times in my life where the resentment was so strong and I knew that the only person it was hurting was me! I decided to own my feelings and let go of resentment, because that was the only path to true freedom and to having the health, wealth and happiness I desired. Plus, that energy in the body is horrid… heavy, stagnant and yucky!
If you would like to work through any resentment that you’re holding onto then please get in contact. Together we will get clear on your trigger, where it comes from, what it is trying to communicate to you, what you need to do moving forward AND we’ll begin the energetic process of shifting it. When the energy of resentment has released from your body, you’ll feel like a new person; lighter, free, clear in your thinking and more energised than ever!
