A spilled glass jar with various copper coins scattered around on a dark surface, suggesting I can't afford it.

I can’t afford it

I can’t afford it

“When you focus on lack and scarcity and what you don’t have, you fuss about it with your family, you discuss it with your friends, you tell your children that you don’t have enough – “We don’t have enough for that, we can’t afford that” – then you’ll never be able to afford it, because you begin to attract more of what you don’t have. If you want abundance, if you want prosperity, then focus on abundance. Focus on prosperity”. ( Lisa Nichols)

The belief that you can’t afford something is so dis-empowering! It makes us feel as if we are trapped, powerless and out of control….. plus it just encourages that mindset of lack.

Many of us grew up hearing this from our parents and it’s become part of our subconscious programming. Our job now is to become more aware of this, understand previous choices we may have made and then release it. Start by observing how many times a day this thought crosses your mind or escapes from your lips. If you hear this a lot from those around you, it might also be time to either set loving boundaries, or reduce the time you spend with these people, because they will bring you down and impact your energy.

When you start to become more aware, you can begin to understand why you’re struggling with money. You’re living in the energy of lack and not enough. Just have a look at the following examples, to get you thinking and see which resonate for you:

• I can’t afford to get my hair done this month – the kids need new shoes/clothes
• I can’t afford to shop at that supermarket or store – their products are so expensive
• I can’t afford to take time off, or reduce my hours – I’ll never cover the bills
• I can’t afford to have a massage or healing session – that’s so frivolous and what if I need the money for something else

The list is endless and the more we say these words, the worse our situation becomes. When we utter the words, I can’t afford it, we are in a place of lack. We are telling ourselves that we don’t have enough money.  It can make us feel trapped, powerless and as if our choice and freedom has been taken from us. There are so many amazing things we could buy, but everything is just out of reach for us.

We want to change our life, we want to take risks, give more to our children than we ever had and just enjoy being abundant – but this belief is a total block!

It can sometimes feel even worse when we see others spending money frivolously, they have the life we want, the things we want and not only do we now feel a sense of lack, we also feel envious. Another low vibrational emotion that blocks us from receiving more.

Don’t get me wrong, I know there is some realism to this too. We don’t have, what we don’t have, but it’s how we choose to think about our situation that will make the difference and bring change to us. We need to re-frame things, so that we feel empowered and raise our energetic vibration. So how about these suggestions:

1) Say – I don’t have the money for this ‘yet’

2) Affirm – I choose to spend my money on nutritious food for my children and to pay my bills on time

3) Start a saving’s plan to achieve what you want. Even if you only place loose change in a jar… it all adds up

4) Work on your money blocks to detox your emotions and energy, because it’s these limiting beliefs that are stopping you from having more. It can feel like climbing a never ending mountain when we constantly worry about money, but mastering your thoughts and re-framing how you see things is fundamental in bringing about change

I created this EFT video for members of my community and I would love to share this with you now. As always pay attention to the emotions, memories and physical sensations that arise, because they all hold clues. Remember to ask for help if you need it.

If you’re sick of feeling like you can’t afford the very things you want and desire, maybe it’s time that you looked at your mindset. You can not have the money, abundance and success you desire if you are carrying around toxic emotions and energy, so let me help you.

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If you have any questions then just let me know.

Until next time!


Intuitive Mindset Coach & Energy Healer for the Sensitive SoulHelping you banish negativity, self-doubt & self-sabotage forever – it’s time to believe in yourself, take action and create the life you deserve


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