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Such a beautiful time of the year! 💗 Have you e

Such a beautiful time of the year!
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Have you ever noticed that nature has no fear in expressing itself?
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Have you ever considered that there might be a pri

Have you ever considered that there might be a price to pay for not speaking up and expressing your truth?
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We often think about how we might feel emotionally if we hold back, but there can also be a lot going on with the body. When you experience those aches, pains and niggles it can be the body trying to get our attention and when we don't listen, this is when it can turn into illness and dis-ease! These things don't tend to happen overnight, they are a build up of months, years, even decades of not expressing our truth and not being able to live an authentic life.
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If you're new to the concept of the mind / body connection, you might find this rather confrontational and that's okay, this way of thinking might not be for you. BUT, if you've already begun to wonder or suspect that more is at play, then this could be the sign you need that you need to stop and pay attention to what your body is trying to communicate to you.
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Do any of these things feel familiar:
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You often feel a pressure or energy in the throat.
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You find yourself with annoying little coughs that you know are not related to any medical issues
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Your jaw can often feel tense and tight
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You can experience ear issues
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Your neck is often tense and tight
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You have IBS or other digestive health issues
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You struggle with an autoimmune illness
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Anxiety is a common friend for you
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You experience regular headaches or migraines
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If you resonate with any of the above symptoms, then take a few moments to ground and breath into the body and what you're feeling. Give the sensations space to be, without fear or judgement and then ask your body what you need to know. You may be surprised at the answer and I would love to know what emerged.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

It's FRIDAY, which can only mean one thing... 💗

It's FRIDAY, which can only mean one thing...
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Marshmallows and the fire pit are happening tonight.
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Have a great weekend everyone.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Expressing your truth is hard enough to do, but e

Expressing your truth is hard enough to do, but even more so when you've grown up believing that you had no voice.
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So who made you feel like your voice, opinion or thoughts didn't matter?
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Southbourne Beach... 💗 Feeling very lucky to li

Southbourne Beach...
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Feeling very lucky to live in such a beautiful part of the world. 15 minutes from a gorgeous beach, that would rival the best in the world AND 15 minutes from beautiful forests that rejuvenate my soul.
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I often find myself complaining about the amount of traffic and people in Bournemouth, but is it any wonder if it has so much to offer!
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As a sensitive soul, I crave space, peace and I enjoy the quiet life, but right now Bournemouth is the perfect place to raise my family. So I often give myself a little talking to and a reality check on what really matters in life!
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Choosing gratitude and looking forward to my forever home in the country.... when the time is right!
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

When you think of women speaking up, what comes to

When you think of women speaking up, what comes to mind?
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They're brave, confident, know who they are, they're go getters, assertive, determined, honest, forthright, powerful and strong. They have incredible boundaries, they make loving choices for themselves and are taking responsibility for their own life.
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Or, do you see 'those' kinds of women as bossy, opinionated, unkind, aggressive, trouble makers, too much, demanding, difficult, unfeminine, unattractive, and ball-breakers? Perhaps you think they're too rigid, selfish, self centred and have no compassion or empathy for others.
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All of us will have perceptions about women who chose to speak up and it will be influenced by a number of different factors. How we feel on the day, who's speaking up and why, how we feel about speaking up and putting ourselves first, old conditioning and fear.
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With perceptions that fall into the second category, is it any wonder that so many women choose not to speak up. We don't want to be labelled, criticised or made to feel bad about ourselves, so instead we choose silence, conformity and people pleasing. It's easier and safer, because we just want to fit in and belong.
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I have to say... I admire those women who speak up and are honest, because it's something I'm still learning to do more of (recovering people pleaser and all!). As long as it's done in a respectful and kind way, and it's appropriate, then we should all be free to express our truth.
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We shouldn't have to fear the wrath of other people; but old conditioning, fear and trauma can make us feel physically unsafe when it comes to voicing our truth and doing what's right for us.
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So what are your thoughts around women who speak up?
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

I found this little beauty on my dog walk with Evi

I found this little beauty on my dog walk with Evie... a Peacock Butterfly.
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I love the symbolism, because there is such powerful meaning in butterflies and peacocks.
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Butterflies represent transformation, change and movement forward. For some it can be a sign that your dreams are on their way (yippy). You have spent time in you cocoon transforming, resting and healing and now it's time to show the world how you can fly and soar.
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Peacocks represent, regrowth, rejuvenation, respect, honour and integrity. They are perfect at helping you to remember who you really are and to reconnect with your inner beauty, strength and courage.... sounds great!
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I love butterflies and have just filled the garden with seeds that encourage wildlife too. Can't wait to see what comes to visit.
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#expressyourself #expressyourtruth #speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

If I speak up, I'll end up alone... 💗 This is o

If I speak up, I'll end up alone...
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This is one of the many fears we can have when it comes to speaking up. It pulls on all those worries about being abandoned, left out, left behind and not fitting in. We fear our truth will push people away, because they won't like what we have to say and they won't like who we really are.
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It doesn't matter that you're communicating with kindness and respect, it doesn't matter that you've been honest with yourself and you've lovingly asserting boundaries; the fact is, you said something they didn't want to hear and now they're triggered. Their response has left you feeling guilty, regretful and remorseful. Honesty is not safe, your truth is not ok!
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I've dealt with the reality of this so many times and it does leave an impact. I decide to be honest and the other person pulls away; doing exactly what I feared. So when it comes to being honest again, you can see how we might choose the relationship and the attachment to the person, over our own sense of integrity, honesty and truth.
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Ask yourself:
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Do you find yourself biting your tongue instead of speaking up, because you worry people will leave you or pull away from you?
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Do you do this with all people in your life, or just some?
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Has your truth caused people to pull away from you in the past? What was the impact of that?
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Have your words hurt another, even if you delivered them with respect, compassion and kindness? What have you made that mean?
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Reflecting on this can be incredibly insightful, because suddenly you can see all the ways you've been holding yourself back. Maybe the choices are conscious, or maybe they're driven by a deeper part of you that is trying it's best to keep you safe. Just know; your actions today are based on old beliefs, experiences and trauma, which you can heal if you choose to.
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#speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #expressyourself #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Started the day with a very wet and windy walk at

Started the day with a very wet and windy walk at Sandbanks Beach.... Evie had a great time and was suitably worn out as we enjoyed hot chocolate after at Jazzy's.
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When Evie was little I would often try little trips out to cafe's and she struggled to settle, so it was never very relaxing, but today she was brilliant. A combination of wearing her out first, practice of settling when on a lead around new places, people and dogs and just trusting that she would get there in her own time.
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It's easy to put pressure on our dogs, because we have an idea of when things should happen and we compare to other dogs too - both those around us and dogs we've owned/own. Best thing I ever did was accepting that Evie is amazing at some things, but some things (recall with other dogs around) is going to take us some more work and time. Regardless, I love this gorgeous girl and I can't believe I've had her nearly 3 years.
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#puppylove #womansbestfriend #springer #malinois #unconditionallove

Even the most confident of people can struggle wit

Even the most confident of people can struggle with speaking up and sharing their truth.
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From the outside we can perceive them as so brave, so direct and never holding back. But they know, there are things they're choosing not to say, because it feels too hard or unsafe.
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Sometimes this can be about what they truly feel or believe in. Everyone else has their opinion and it doesn't feel safe to say they disagree or see things differently - they want to avoid conflict and arguments, rejection and abandonment.
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Sometimes this is about setting in place the boundaries you need to live an aligned life and run a business that works for you. This is when they give too much away for free, allowing clients to overstep boundaries and putting themselves and their needs last - they want to be liked, needed and chosen.
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For some, it can be feeling scared to share how they can truly help people or raising their prices to honour their true value. Instead they stay in their 'safe zone', doing what they've always done - they doubt themselves, their value and their skills; they don't want to feel like a fraud, or risk letting people down.
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When fear sets in, it's easier to procrastinate and stay silent, but the silence eats away at us. We know we're not living our best life and we're not stepping into our power.
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So what stops you from speaking up? I would love to know....
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#speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #expressyourself #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

Some people just intuitively know how far they can

Some people just intuitively know how far they can push us and exactly what to say or do, to get what they want or need. It can leave us feeling exhausted, violated and completely under appreciated. This can happen in our personal life and in our business.
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Does this sound like you?
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You want to assert yourself, but you’re scared to speak your truth and you fear judgement, rejection and criticism.
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You want to have the freedom to choose what’s best for you, but instead you put the other person first, choosing to keep the peace and avoiding conflict.
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You want people to like you and so whatever they need, you’re there for them. Even when your body is crying out for you to stop and there are things you need to do for yourself.
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You feel like everyone is taking advantage of you... your friends, clients, colleagues and even your family.
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You’re so angry at yourself for being weak and not standing your ground, but every time you decide that today is the day you'll be brave and say no or speak your truth, you give in or procrastinate.
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It's so confusing and exhausting. You end up feeling resentful at the people who are taking advantage of you, but in reality, you're the one allowing it. You're not alone in this, and often our choices are a trauma response. It's why it's so unhelpful when people say 'just speak up and say no', 'what are you waiting for?', or 'why is this such a big deal?'. Sometimes we just don't know consciously, but our body is definitely remembering something, we're coming from a place of fear and survival.
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To feel truly free, happy and in alignment with ourselves, we need to have boundaries. So 2 tips:
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1) Get clear on your boundaries - what is and is not acceptable to you
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2) Notice how it feels when someone over steps, because this will help you in the future.
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#speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #expressyourself #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

One of the reasons we can decide not to speak up,

One of the reasons we can decide not to speak up, is because we have this ingrained belief that people just don't listen to us. Often this belief is formed in childhood when our voice wasn't heard and then it's compounded over the years. The belief becomes stronger and stronger until it's now a truth!
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This belief (or truth) has a huge impact on the decisions you make and how you show up in every relationship in your life; with partners, friends, family, people you interact with as part of general life, and those that you connect to through work. Can you identify yourself in the following:
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You choose not to speak your truth with someone because they didn't listen in the past and you feel like you're wasting your time, energy and effort.
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You never challenge people and what they're saying, whether a partner, friend or even someone in authority, because you believe they won't listen anyway.
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Most parents complain that their kids never listen, but for you it bothers you so much more. You feel hurt, rejected, taken for granted and at times furious!
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Because you've chosen not to speak up for such a long time, it's now become a big deal and so you feel anxious and nervous just thinking about it.
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You're procrastinating and holding back when it comes to sharing how you can help people with your gifts, talents and knowledge. Projects are left unfinished, ideas are not explored, emails are never sent, content is not created. The impact is that other people are surging ahead offering exactly what you do and instead you're watching from the shadows frustrated and angry at yourself.
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All of these things can make you feel invisible, completely powerless, insignificant and small. I want you to know that it's possible to change this belief, click the bio to get on the wait list for my new group experience.
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#speakyourtruth #findyourvoice #speakup #speakout #safetospeakup #expressyourself #communication #beyourself #beseen #beheard #putyourselffirst #youmatter #voiceyourtruth #findyourvoice #useyourvoice #youropinionmatters #mindset #positivity #love #breathwork #breathe #healing #traumarelease #healyourself #heal #mindbodyconnection

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